Latest Jobs!!

Tis the season!!! Here are some of our newest positions! If you are interested please write to deirdre@americannycompany.com or speed the process up by applying on line at www.americannannycompany.com We have many other jobs as well. We seek experienced childcare professionals who can make a long term commitment and have outstanding references! Hope to hear from you soon!

Happy Holidays to you and yours.


Cheers,
Marsha Epstein
Director



New! Live Out Charlestown - FT (Full time) Charlestown, MA -American Nanny Company Experienced and long term nanny needed to work with active and adorable 10 month old. Both parents work FT and need a totally responsible nanny with understanding of development. M-F- 7-6 Salary/Benefits: 8 to 900 based on exp License Required: Automobile Certification Required: CPR1st Aid Experience Required: Minimum 3-5 years Date Posted: 12/11/2011

New! Ideal Part-Time Nanny Job (Part time) Weston, MA -American Nanny Company The nicest couple seek an experienced, loving and LO nanny for their darling 2 and 4 mo daughter. Infant & toddler exp critical as is commitment to the position. Hrs:M-8:30-1:30 T-2-7 W-8:30-1:30 Th2-7 F 8:30-1:30 Salary/Benefits: 18-20 an hour with performance bonus License Required: Automobile Certification Required: CPR1st Aid Experience Required: Minimum 1-3 years Date Posted: 12/11/2011

New! Awesome Beacon Hill LO Job!! (Part time) Boston, MA -American Nanny Company If you are looking for a fab 30 hr. a week job with two great kids 9 and 6 this is your dream job! M-F 1-7 and 1 or 2 late nights a few times a month. Warm and wonderful family. Start ASAP Salary/Benefits: 19-20 an hour plus benefits License Required: Automobile Certification Required: CPR1st Aid Experience Required: Minimum 3-5 years Date Posted: 12/11/2011

New! Great LO Job ASAP (Full time) North Reading, MA -American Nanny Company The loveliest dual career couple seek a very exp, loving and warm nanny for a long term commitment. 1 and 3 year old wonderful kids. Hrs: M-F- 7-5/ Car provided to drive kids. Salary/Benefits: 15- 20 an hour plus benefits License Required: Automobile Certification Required: CPR-1st Aid Experience Required: Minimum 3-5 years Date Posted: 12/11/2011

New! Loving FT Nanny LO Boylston (Full time) Boylston, MA -American Nanny Company Warm and caring dual career couple and their darling 20 month boy and 2mo girl need a very special and dedicated nanny for the care of the children. Start ASAP-Hours-M9-5, T10-6 Th 9-5 F 9-5. Have Wednesdays off! Wonderful Family!!! Salary/Benefits: 18 an hour. License Required: Automobile Certification Required: cpr 1st aid Experience Required: Minimum 3-5 years Date Posted: 12/11/2011

New! Baby Lov e! PT LO Boston! (Part time) Boston, MA -American Nanny Company Really great couple seek fantastic nanny with lots of experience, spark and love to care for newborn baby. Start ASAP. Hours are M 10-4 T 10-4 Th 10-4 and F 11:30-8:30. This is going to make some nanny very happy. Salary/Benefits: 17-20 an hour plus performance bonus Certification Required: CPR-1st Aid Experience Required: Minimum 1-3 years Date Posted: 12/11/2011

New! LI or LO Harvard Square- January (Full time) Cambridge, MA -American Nanny Company Caring single mother and her 9 and 10 year old son seek exp, caring nanny who has exp w. special needs to join their family. If LI lovely accommodations! Work 40 hours a week covering afternoon hours until 7. Help create a positive and supportive environment Salary/Benefits: 20 an hour for LO. LI Negotiable License Required: Automobile Experience Required: Minimum 1-3 years Date Posted: 12/11/2011

New! Full Time Nanny LO Hopkington ASAP (Full time) Hopkington, MA -American Nanny Company Busy but down to earth and lovely dual career couple relocating need exp, responsible and engaging nanny for girls 3 and 1. Hours: M-Th 7:30-6- F 8-5 Salary/Benefits: 15-17 an hour plus performance bonus License Required: Automobile Certification Required: CPR-1st Aid Experience Required: Minimum 1-3 years Date Posted: 12/11/2011

New! Top Notch LO Nanny for NB (Full time) Waltham, MA -American Nanny Company If you have lots of great infant experience and are a dedicated career nanny this very discerning couple - new parents want you!!!! Must make long term commitment. Hrs M-F -8-6. Salary/Benefits: 15-20 plus health and performance bonus License Required: Automobile Certification Required: CPR1st Aid Experience Required: Minimum 3-5 years Date Posted: 12/11/2011

New! Hebrew Speaking LO Nanny for April (Full time) Cambridge, MA -American Nanny Company Lovely couple seek experience nanny for LO or LI for July for two year old and newborn. Speaking Hebrew a big plus as they are Israeli! They want someone very special and dedicated. Hours are M-th9-6 and F. 8-4 Salary/Benefits: Negotiable and commensurate with experience License Required: Automobile Certification Required: CPR-1st Aid Experience Required: Minimum 1-3 years Date Posted: 12/11/2011

New! Top NOTCH LO for April (Full time) Cambridge, MA -American Nanny Company Top notch career nanny with lots of infant experience and outstanding infant exp needed for hi-powered dual career coup and their newborn.Travel is required as they travel often for business. This could possibly be live in. Great opportunity of the right nanny. Baby Specialist would be perfect!!! Salary/Benefits: 20 an hiour plus other benefits, travel, use of car License Required: Automobile Certification Required: CPR Experience Required: Minimum 3-5 years Date Posted: 12/11/2011

New! Prof Nanny for Amherst Family (Full time) Amherst, MA -American Nanny Company We have a most special client in search of an experienced, caring, pro- active, responsible and dedicated nanny to care for a wonderful 4 year old girl and adorable 3 month boy. This dual career couple hope to find a nanny who has had long term positive experiences with families as a nanny. Nanny should be creative, upbeat, energetic with experience with infants, toddlers and pre school age children. Nanny should have understanding of developmental needs, stages and issues and be capable of providing appropriate activities that are both fun and stimulating. Nanny should be fun but also firm and able to set and maintain limits. The start date is in Mid-January. This is a full time job - M-F 8-6. While the focus is on the care of the children there is also light housekeeping responsibilities such as laundry, meal prep, grocery shopping and keeping children's area neat. Our client is eager to begin the interviewing. If you are interested please send resume and cover letter and we will contact you. This is a solid opportunity for a candidate who wants a great family, position and a long term position. They are a lovely, down to earth family. Salary/Benefits: 750 per week. License Required: Automobile Certification Required: CPR1st Aid Experience Required: Minimum 1-3 years Date Posted: 11/27/2011

New! Toddler in Brookline needs a Nanny!! (Part time) Brookline, MA -American Nanny Company 11 month old girl in need of a part time nanny 3-4 days a week,10am-6pm, hours are flexible. Mom is stay at home & also at office.Parents very hands on&nanny’s focus is directly on baby. No texting or emailing Salary/Benefits: Salary:$18 an hour. License Required: Driver's Certification Required: CPR and First Aid Experience Required: Minimum 3-5 years Date Posted: 12/08/2011 

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Latest Job Postings: July 13, 2011

It's summertime and the jobs are coming in fast and furiously. We have a variety of opportunities; here is a sampling of some. If you are interested please send resume to aleen@americannannycompany and indicate which job (s) you are interested in. If your want to expedite the process apply on line at www.americannannycompany.com and indicate which job(s) you are interested in by letting us know in the comment section of our application.

Make A Difference
Wonderful family in need of a supportive, experienced and empathetic nanny for three wonderful children. Location: Burlington, Mass. LIVE-IN; Start Date: August 25.
Work with two boys in the 5th and 1st grade. Parents are undergoing a divorce and boys live with their father and need your support.

Qualifications Sought: nurturing, warm, intelligent and perceptive. Nanny should be experienced with establishing limits and guiding children developmentally. Nanny should have the ability to encourage them becoming more self-confident, self-reliant and independent.

Job Description: In addition to above meal preparation, light household and other tasks-laundry, helping children with school work as needed, driving kids to school and other activities. Work 5 days a week.

Salary: 40K plus benefits. Private bedroom and bath. Travel, use of car and health benefits.
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Wonderful Dual Career and Their 10 Month Son Seek FT LO Nanny-Boston
Start in late August/early September.The couple is returning to Boston after living in London for the last three years and are excited about coming back.

Nanny Qualifications: They are hoping to find a nanny who speaks Serbo-Croatian as that is where the mother's family is from. Also required is infant experience, understanding of early childhood development, great work ethic, warm, nurturing and committed to working with children. They also have a well behaved dog but will be hiring a dog walker as well as a weekly housekeeper.

Job Description: All childcare activities, play dates, some meal prep, kid laundry, and some household management.

Hours are M-F 8-6 -52 K a year plus benefits.

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Live-In Needed for West Hartford, CT. Start ASAP

Dual career couple and their adorable three children 2 mos, 2 and 4 need extremely experienced, devoted and caring nanny. Other qualifications include that candidate is very organized, responsible, reliable and committed to working with children. Also required is a candidate who can make a long term commitment.

Job Description: M-F- 7-7. Childcare, light housework and household management. Focus on care and socialization of children and the provision of developmentally appropriate activities and behavioral expectations. transporting of children.

Salary is 700-800 and benefits. Sept bedroom and bath and use of car.

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Wonderful Family Seeks LI or LO- Wellesley, Ma. ASAP

Need a very experienced candidate with a strong educational background for working with special needs children. Their 8 year old son has ADHD and parents seek a warm, caring, smart nanny who can work with him. Applicant should have insight into and understanding of early childhood development and a passion for working with children.

Hours are 10-7- can be flexible and salary is 700 for live-in and 15-20 for live out. Childcare, household management, laundry, cooking.

If live in separate bedroom and bath. Salary commensurate with experience
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LO/ LI Newton, Ma ASAP/Awesome!
Busy & caring dual career family seek engaging, exp, insightful, responsible & energetic nanny. They have a 5 yr.old & 2 1/2 twins who will be in preschool in the fall. Nanny should be responsible,smart &safety conscious.Sep/great accommodations.
Job description focuses on the care, development and socialization of the children. Also required is light housework, driving of kids and some household management. This is a very dynamic and fun family.

Competitive salary and benefits commensurate with experience.
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LO Newton-Sept -1 yr. old & 7 yr twins.
One of ANC'S Favorite Families is Back.
Join this FAB family and their active, fun-loving children. Parents provide clear and fair job description and are wonderful communicators treating their nannies with great respect.

Work M-F 8:30-5:00:focus on care of 1 year old & aft school for twins. Nanny should be exp dedicated, active, creative & willing 2 make long term commitment. 15-21 an hour plus benefits.
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Calling All Smart, Dedicated, Athletic and Caring Career Nannies.
Fabulous Live-Out Position in Wellesley. Start Date: September 1.

Dual Career Doctors and their 11 & 8 year old talented, smart and active girls seek exp nanny/governess/household manager.Work Schedule is M-F 7:45-6- With some time off during day.Responsibilities include Driving, meal prep,, homework help, care of girls.

Note that this family seeks a long term commitment.

45K plus generous benefits
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Newborn Twin Boys-Dover, Ma- Aug

Lovely family and newborn twin boys seek that special career nanny with infant & multiples experience.Work full time (mom on leave-will go back to work) M-F 8;30-5:30.Focus on the loving care & development of twins.

Parents want a nanny who is very nurturing, committed, willing to make a long term commitment, organized and an outstanding communicator. They will treat their nanny with respect and like an important member of the team. They are lovely.

Salary is 18-20 an hour and other benefits.
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Little Men! Live Out in Brookline, Mass. Start September 1.

Join busy but involved dual career physicians and their active & fun-loving 2 and 4 year old boys.The family seek an experienced, nurturing, calm, organized, developmentally savvy candidate who will make a long term commitment. The job description focuses on the care of the boys and some light housework and household management. M-F 45 hours a week. Need 2 work 1 Sunday and 1 Saturday per month. Nanny given advance notice of schedule.

The family is moving from Boston and will need a new nanny. They will miss their nanny but will welcome the next nanny with open arms. They are a wonderful family to work with.

Salary 18-21 an hour plus benefits.
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Perfect Schedule for the Right Candidate!
Wonderful Wellesley Family Seeks Three Afternoons a Week.
Start: Beginning of September

The warmest family and their 13, 10 and 8 year old children seek a warm, active, fun, organized and upbeat nanny who get along well with older children. This is a structured household and family seeks a nanny who also is structured and organized.
The children are well behaved and responsible. Nanny role is to pick them up from school, help with homework,kid laundry, walk Golden Retriever, play games/sports, take them to extracurricular activities; their oldest daughter is a ballet dance.

Work and three days (but not Friday and have choice of either a 1-6 schedule (include some household management and errands) or work 2:30-6.

Salary: 20 an hour.
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JOIN The FAMILY and Help with Two Sets of

Start ASAP in Newton, Ma.
The loveliest couple seeks a very experienced, nurturing, patient, dedicated and hard working nanny to join the team. They have one set of twins who are 1. 5 and newborn twins. Nanny will work with another nanny and will not have full responsibility for both sets of twins.

Job Description focuses on care, play, development and activities of children.
Work 48 hours a week. M-F.
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Salary and benefits are commensurate with experience.
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Perfect Job for Pre-School Teacher. Chestnut Hill, Ma. September 1

Great family with three bright, creative and active children seek very experienced, dedicated, creative, proactive nanny with a strong understanding of early childhood development . The children are 1, 4 and 7. Nanny will work from 3-8. Job description includes, play, outings, homework help, help with dinner, etc.

Salary is 20 an hour.
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Our goal is to make great matches for nannies and families!






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How I Became An Accidental Entrepreneur

As I sit at my desk facing the numerous challenges that only a Tuesday after a long weekend can bring I go back to my roots. There is a reason that I subjected myself to the madness and yes, wonder of running a nanny agency. Here is my back story.


Tuesday, December 29, 2009
How I Became an Accidental Entrepreneur
After 49 hours of labor, an unexpected C-section and exposure to some of the meanest labor and delivery nurses at a leading Boston Hospital, I cradled my beautiful son, Peter, in my arms. Parenthood began and my husband and I were ecstatic.

It was 1979 and the childcare option landscape was a dim one. There were many unqualified and inexperienced baby sitters, day care centers which were more custodial than nurturing, au pairs out for a cool cultural experience and neighbors willing to take another child into the mix. I soon discovered that my desire to return to my position as a full-time professor of Sociology at an area Community College was a provocative and unsettling notion to many of the mothers living in the same sprawling development of condos in the exurbs of Boston.

“I love my child and plan on staying with him,” one such mother commented as I told her of my plans to return to work. It wasn’t too long until my plan was broadcasted to her network of friends and I was labeled a “bad mom” and ostracized. Ironically, it was that same community of peers who reported excessive nursing activity, pool side, to the Condo Board of Directors from whom I received a warning letter. This was an early version of the mommy wars and I unwittingly had to take a side.

Fiercely idealistic and an ardent feminist I swung the banner for all mothers who loved their children but also loved their work. It had to be possible to balance family and work life. Fortunately, my husband also a professor, believed as I did and shared equally in the care of our son and home. He encouraged my transitioning back to work after a 6 month maternity leave.

Planners that we were we began interviewing candidate to care for Peter. From divorcees to wives who were being hunted down by ex-husbands to 18 year olds who hadn’t a notion about what to do with their lives we were about ready to check out the local McDay Care when Maureen Finn opened up her home to Peter. The very warm mother of a baby Pete’s age and a delightful 3-year-old we knew we struck gold.

Sadly, at 17 months we wrested Peter away from his home and had to walk away from a very special arrangement as we moved from condo to a home in Newton, Mass. The nightmare of childcare began. We hired a student of my husbands who had good references and an interest in art and children. She moved in and we were relieved and felt fortunate. Two months into that and our cleaning person took me aside to tell me that Julie’s care of our child was a charade. As soon as we left for work Julie would put Pete into his high chair, climb the stairs to her room and leave him there for hours. Then there was the sitter who was constantly late because she took on a night shift at a 24 hour restaurant without forewarning us. Finally, relief came in the form of a Swedish Au Pair with eyes the color of the sea and a calming voice. True, she had little experience with babies, but she was smart, motivated and seemed to have a natural chemistry with Peter. After that was Jeanette who was a Danish Au Pair placed in a miserable home where she was taken advantage of and underpaid. Bright, engaging and with a keen sense of humor she was an outstanding match for our family. She left to marry and we realized that this merry-go-round was impacting our lives and upending Peter’s trust in caregivers. Attaching fiercely and then having them fade into the night was putting him and us on edge.

This is the back story of how I became an “accidental entrepreneur. Borrowing the idea of the European Au Pair and translating it into an arrangement that could last longer and have less cultural conflicts I began the American Au Pair Company. The phones rang, I took a leave of absence from teaching and a company was born; fueled by needs and passion for finding solutions for self and others.

About Me
Marsha Epstein
Founded American Nanny Company in 1984. Prior to that was a professor of Sociology and Family for many years. Passionate about helping to alleviate the strains of balancing work and family pressures for parents. Family is very important to me. I have been married for 32 years and have two adult sons and a daughter-in law.















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Tips for Travel with Your Nanny/Caregiver

Many employers opt to take their nannies on vacation. While these vacations can be wonderful opportunities to get to know your employee better we at American Nanny Company offer some guidelines to help make the vacation smoother for you and your nanny. The following are some helpful tips:

1. Even though you are away from your normal routines and schedule, ongoing communication is still a very critical component of the professional and personal relationship with your nanny. Remember to keep the channels of communication open whether on Nantucket for a week or southern California for a month. It helps to schedule a daily talk or briefing so that your employee has an opportunity to know what is expected and to give and receive feedback.

2. Delineate expectations and hours so that your nanny has a clear understanding of responsibilities, duties, work scheduling and free time available. Take this step prior to arriving at your destination. While mutual flexibility is expected on vacation giving your nanny a sense of what she/he will be doing, when they will be on and off will allay conflict, anxiety and frustration.

3. Division of Labor: For many employers vacation is a unique situation in which you will overlap on an every day and consistent basis with employees who are accustomed to working solo while you are out of the home. This can create confusion (and in worse case scenarios- chaos!) Therefore it is imperative to review and discuss the roles you will be play vis a vis the children and light housekeeping in this special situation of overlapping adults. Another important and related issue that might arise as a conflict between parent and nanny is that of limit setting with the children. Who will handle limit-setting when all are cooped up together? Try to get clear on these issues and avoid the embarrassment of a nanny feeling a lack of support. Consistency here is key for the children.

4. Have a good time and have a few laughs! Take advantage of the time to relax, explore and have fun with your nanny. Include her/him on the excitement and pleasure of the new surroundings. Make sure that they know where they are and how to get around.

5. Encourage your nanny to pitch in as needed. Vacations can be stressful. Let your nanny know that you sincerely appreciate any pitching in as a valued adult and member of the team. As employers and parents you can model this by also pitching in.



6 Have private moments: Sometimes being thrown together in a “cozy little cabin” has it’s awkward moments. Make sure that you make it clear that there will be mutual respect for private time and space. We all need psychic and physical space on vacation. If you feel that you are getting cranky or cramped take some time out and ask the nanny for help. Also make sure that your nanny is not feeling too cramped either.

7.Don’t let your nanny get dejected because the children who are usually all over her/him when you are at work full time suddenly drop them like a wet dish rag for precious time with you. This is usually temporary and natural. Make sure that they do not take this rejection personally.

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The Nanny Matador:Avoid Bullies, Fights and Seeing Red

Our guest blogger is a dedicated career nanny, Lisa Worth who is very concerned about bullying and the role that we can all play in putting an end to the teasing, torment and suffering of the victims and in encouraging bullies to stop. Please visit her website Modernizing Mary Poppins. www.modernizingmarypoppins.com



There are three parts to her post and today we are publishing Part I.

PART ONE --- Recognizing the Bullies and Victims

In a CNN/Opinion Research Corporation poll conducted in September, two thirds of the 500 teens questioned state that their friends have been threatened or humiliated by another child.
Has a child you have ever cared for been bullied? Has a child you have ever cared for been the bully? How sure are you of either of those answers?

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention states
Bullying is when a person or group repeatedly tries to harm someone who is weaker or who they think is weaker. Sometimes it involves direct attacks such as hitting, name calling, teasing or taunting. Sometimes it is indirect, such as spreading rumors or trying to make others reject someone.
Often people dismiss bullying among kids as a normal part of growing up. But bullying is harmful. It can lead children and teenagers to feel tense and afraid. It may lead them to avoid school. In severe cases, teens who are bullied may feel they need to take drastic measures or react violently. Others even consider suicide. For some, the effects of bullying last a lifetime.

I found the above information on the US National Library of Medicine and National Institutes of Health website. At first I wondered “Gee do I use a definition created by the CDC, they’re dealing with diseases and illnesses?” Yet as I think of all the headlines, it’s clear that bullying seems to be an epidemic that needs to be eradicated. Children aren’t just considering suicide, some are dying, and some are being killed by their tormentors.
Bullying can be physical. Or it can be emotional occurring live or on the internet. We can’t be with the children all the time. And sometimes they may not tell us it is happening. It is up to us to learn all we can about bullying.

Signs, symptoms, and indicators of a bully include:

• Positive views towards violence
• Often aggressive towards adults – including teachers or parents
• Marked need to control and dominate others and situations
• Boy bullies tend to be physically stronger than their peers. Girl bullies generally are more verbal.
• Hot tempered, impulsive, easily frustrated
• Often test limits or break rules
• Good at talking their way out of difficult situations
• Show little sympathy toward others who are bullied

This is a link to a school site that provides a more comprehensive list. http://www.elmiracityschools.com/uploadeddocs/BMSwarningsigns.pdf
After reading these things, I see that I have cared for kids that would be considered a bully. A counselor once told me bad children can come from good parents, and good children can come from bad parents. Okay, the same can be said for nannies, right?
Many studies and surveys have shown there is no single cause of bullying among children. A variety of different factors can place a child at risk for bullying his or her peers. However, it has been found that children who bully are more likely than their non-bullying peers to come from homes with certain characteristics.

Family Risk Factors for Bullying
• A lack of warmth and involvement on the part of parents;
• Overly permissive parenting (including a lack of limits for children's behavior)
• A lack of supervision by parents;
• Harsh, physical discipline; and
• Bullying incidences at home.
It is not uncommon for a child to have bullied and also been the victim of bullying. These are known as bully-victims. Bully-victims often experience behavioral and emotional difficulties.
• Bully-victims struggle to control their emotions.
• May unintentionally prompt children to bully them again by reacting very emotionally to teasing.
• May have problems controlling feelings of anger and frustration, predisposing them to retaliatory aggression.
• Show social and emotional problems that are frequently present in victims of bullying, such as anxiety, depression, peer rejection, and a lack of close friendships.
• Greater acceptance of rule-breaking behavior and hyperactivity.


Bullying and Other Violent and/or Antisocial Behaviors
Research shows that bullying can be a sign of other serious antisocial and/or violent behavior. Children who frequently bully their peers are more likely than others to:
• Get into frequent fights;
• Be injured in a fight;
• Vandalize or steal property;
• Drink alcohol;
• Smoke;
• Be truant from school;
• Drop out of school; and
• Carry a weapon


On the opposite side there are the victims, potential victims, and profiles about them:
Most of the bully victims are kids who are either:
• Too short or too tall
• Too fat or too thin
• Very good or very poor at studies
• Very good or very poor at extracurricular activities
• Having some physical malformation or deformity
• Clumsy looking
• Doesn’t want to go to a specific place, mostly school or playground. These could be the places where the child is being bullied. Wants to go to places where there is no bully as they are stressed with being bullied and always thinking ways to get out of the bully clutch. The bully victim starts hating the place where he is being bullied and doesn’t want to go to such places. The child might be scared of a class bully, bully in school, a neighborhood bully or a playground bullies.
• Talks to himself or cries during sleep. The child may even wet the bed. This happens because the incidents of bulling are dominating the child’s mind and he frequently has dreams about being bullied.
• Insists you to drop him to the school. If the child is being bullied in the school bus, he doesn’t want to go to school by school bus. For the child, it is a Bully bus.
• Looks lethargic or sick in the morning and seem better later during the day.
• Doesn’t feel like studying.
• Doesn’t speak well with confidence. Confidence level falls down.
• Remains silent and doesn’t participate in normal daily life activities.
• Wants to change his route to a specific place, like school or play ground. Because he is being bullied on the way to that place.
• Stops eating and looses weight.
• Eats too much, especially after coming from school. Because the bullies at school eats his lunch and he remains hungry.
• Always short of pocket money. Because the bully snatches pocket money. The child insists to raise the pocket money. If we don’t raise it, the child may steal money only to give it to the bully.
• Can’t give reasonable account of the pocket money.
• Always loses his items like pen, pencils, eraser etc., and can't explain if it is asked for. Because the bully snatches these things and the victim children tell us that these things were lost.
• Doesn’t want to talk about the problem.
• Tells lies and makes excuses about many things.
• Suddenly become aggressive or may start bullying younger and weaker brothers, sisters, friends and neighborhood children etc. It happens because the child wants to ease out his frustration.
• Usually returns home having scars, bruises, scratches, cuts etc. or with upset clothes and school bag.
• May threaten or even attempt suicide.
Nannies can assist the parents and children in dealing with bullying by being informed about this problem and start conversations about it. Or have suggestions and solutions when the child comes home from school showing signs of being a victim or the aggressor.
Researchers have found that by age 23, individuals who had been chronically victimized in their youth had lower self-esteem and were more depressed than those who had not been victimized. Similarly, long-term outcomes for bullies also can be serious; compared to their peers, bullies are more likely to be convicted of crimes in adulthood.