Sunday, June 1, 2014

Sorry for the Radio Silence

So sorry for the radio silence. We are back on the blog reaching out to nannies and families with the message that we are very much here and very much involved in continuing the tradition of placing passionate, experienced and highly dedicated professional nannies with kind, caring and respectful families with great job descriptions and reasonable expectations.

We are excited about the upcoming busy season and are blessed with the most incredibly qualified and wonderful professional nannies and great families. Now, more than ever is a time that the highest standards must be upheld as more and more people are turning to careers as nannies with the proper background, training or experience. It takes more than "love of children" to work as a nanny. We are so proud of the nannies we have placed through the years. We are also so pleased with the pool of current nannies we are working with. As a pioneer agency established in 1984 we are in it for the long term and know just how important our work is.

We will be posting many more posts and are excited about what we do, who we work with and the future of the in-home childcare movement. Nannies, thanks for all that you do and give.

Here's to a great season!!!


Marsha Epstein
American Nanny Company, Inc.

Wednesday, October 9, 2013

The Dreaded Transition- Changing Nannies- What's a Parent to do?

For many families the transitioning of nannies is anxiety-provoking and complicated. It is inevitable that children (and parents) will become incredibly bonded to their caregivers and therefore experience an array of emotions as the dreaded departure date  approaches.  While many parents seek out long-term relationships with a nanny they are probably not anticipating just how painful the ending of a five, six, seven or even eight relationship can be.

One parent's reaction to the news that her nanny of five years would be leaving, "I felt like I was losing a limb."  This mother was  panic-stricken and concerned about the reality of finding a replacement half as valuable and half as perfect a fit for her family. Her question  "What shall I tell the children and when?" followed as I could sense the strain in her voice. She is not alone.

We at American Nanny Company, Inc.  are often asked for tips/suggestions on best ways of managing the transition for the children and the steps parents might take in easing the change.

  •  TIMING IS EVERYTHING-  Assess when it is best and how to break the news to your children. Take into consideration the departure date, the nanny's reason for leaving and the ages and temperaments of your children. Some parents even consult their pediatricians for advice on when and how to share the news.  It is best to give your children enough time to process the the upcoming transition  and to learn about the plan in place. 
  •  ACKNOWLEDGEMENT AND UNDERSTANDING OF THEIR FEELINGS/EMOTIONS IS CRITICAL-  Now is the time to encourage the expression of feelings and to let your child know that he/she can always talk about their feelings with you and your partner. Acknowledge the attachment/bond they have experienced with their nanny and let them know how it is normal/ok to be sad.  You might want to add that your nanny will also experience sadness and miss them too.  (Better to have loved and lost then to not love at all). Also clarify the role that the nanny played as a "partner" with you and your partner not as a surrogate parent. As parents, you are the constant in their lives and just like teachers there will be a change in nannies. Every ending leads to a new beginning. Also assure them that the nanny will continue to play some role in the lives of the family.
  • PARENTS AND NANNY NEED TO ASSURE CHILD/REN THAT IT IS NOT THEIR FAULT THAT THE NANNY IS LEAVING- Assure that the nanny is not leaving because of anything that they have done. 
  • INVOLVEMENT OF NANNY IN THE TRANSITION CAN BE VERY HELPFUL- Assuming that the relationship with the departing nanny has been a healthy one do consider having your nanny discuss the situation and their feelings with the children. She/he might stress that even though she/he is leaving their love for them is "forever." There should be reinforcement that although the relationship will change it will still persist albeit in a new form. Here is where the nanny/parents need to be honest and not over promise or raise expectations of children too high.   
  • OVERLAP OF OUTGOING AND INCOMING NANNY- works well when the outgoing nanny is on board with the choice and the role of introducing the new nanny to the kids, neighborhood and help walk them though...

Wednesday, October 2, 2013

Job Of The Day- October 2, 2013- Must Love to Play!

As September rolls into October our agency is fortunate to receive some incredible new positions.
From time to time we like to feature "our job of the day." We are pleased to present a job the most of us in the office think will be so much fun and so meaningful for the right nanny.

The parents are warm and friendly and have enjoyed an incredible relationship with an incredible nanny They hope to find another wonderful nanny for their three spirited children and  Two boys 4 and 6 and their 2 year old sister. The mom shared," an energetic Mary Poppins type would be perfect."  The start date would be November or September or could be earlier for the right candidate.

They seek a loving, nurturing nanny who enjoys being present, active with kids and able to stimulate and engage them in meaningful and developmentally appropriate activities. Responsibilities would include driving to and from school activities, helping the children get ready in the morning, taking them on outings to the park, museum, aquarium and engaging in arts and crafts. Also preparing their lunches and bathing them.

The schedule is M-f 7- 5:30 with some flexibility. These are really good kids who are healthy, curious, active, well behaved and respectful. A swimmer would be preferred as the family has a pool. They would also love to hire a nanny with a strong educational background who is willing to get out and do sports.

This will be such a rewarding job for a super nanny with lots of get up and go and experience. While this couple is dual career please note that the mom works part time and is in the home some but works very well with the nanny as a respected member of the team.

Salary is competitive with health insurance offered. Most critical is that the nanny be top-notch.

Monday, September 23, 2013

It's National Nanny Recognition Week Again! #NNRW

 September 13, 2013

Dear Employer,

Today marks the first day of National Nanny Recognition Day. Let this be the perfect opportunity to let your nanny know just how appreciated and respected they are.

NNRW was established in 1998 as a way to celebrate and recognize the many contributions and roles that professional nannies make and play in the increasingly complicated lives of their employer families. I recall the inauguration of this day and how families, nanny agencies and the mass media were encouraged to focus on the positive aspects of the in home childcare movement rather than on the negative portrayals of "nannies gone awry" popularized in movies and the press.  It also provided a time in which a family could spend time reflecting upon all that their nannies do for the children, parents and helping the household run smoothly.

Now is the time... a great time to let our nannies know just how much and what they mean to us. It is time to give thanks for their ongoing care, dedication, insights, patience, understanding, flexibility, developmental knowledge, and engagement that they give on a daily basis.

Suggestion for ways to celebrate and express our appreciation: 

1. Include children by helping them make a special gift, card, hand printed mug or personalized framed picture of the child and nanny together.

2. A great time to give your nanny a contribution to a gym, or museum membership.

3. A day at the Spa is always a wonderful way to say thank you to your ever nurturing and tireless nanny.

4. Membership in the INA  (International Nanny Association) or offering a paid trip to a Nanny Palooza Event is a wonderful way to support the professional development of your nanny. Also contributing to tuition for relevant coursework is very appreciated. Supporting ongoing educational and professional education is a win-win for your nanny and your family.

5. Have a very special family dinner together at which your nanny is honored.

6. Treat your nanny to a concert, sports event or dinner at a favorite restaurant.

7. A gift card to a favorite store is always a huge hit.

8. Great time to look at an upgrade in benefits or a salary increase based upon their good performance and meeting of expectations.

9. An additional paid day off or paid vacation week is another way of saying thanks.

These are very general suggestions. Perhaps you will come up with something more fitting for your nanny.

Interview Tips: When Affect Trumps Resume and a Warm Smile Can Result in a Signed Contract

The new client left a message on a Sunday evening. She was depressed by an interview she had with what seemed to her a most "promising" candidate  "Is it normal for a candidate to not ask one question about the children?"

We had a phone interview conversation on Friday in which we reviewed her job description and discussed the qualifications that were a "must-have" and those that were more secondary. As the director of a nanny agency one very important role that I play other than the obvious (explaining our process, fees, policies, vetting, interviewing, reference and criminal background checking); is the diplomatic management of parental expectations.

The candidate in question had a sterling resume with years of long-term nanny experience with infants, multiples and toddlers. She had a BA in Early Childhood Education and rave references. In a review of candidates sent by the agency our client narrowed it down to three and the person she interviewed was ranked #1.  Having been in the business for almost 30 years I am well aware of multiple realities and how there are always two sides to every story. 

From the parent's perspective it seemed that the candidate never smiled, could not make eye contact and sat on the couch with her arms crossed and her head bowed.  She barely looked at the sleeping baby in her mother's arms as she shot question after question about the business/financial side of things at the proud but sleep deprived new mother.  The questions being asked were important but should have been shelved for a later time. I was surprised by some of the questions as the candidate had been briefed by our office prior to her being contacted by our client. She would have known the salary range, hours, schedule, benefits package, and basics of the job description. Clearly she had glossed over this information and was ill-prepared for her interview.  As an agency we try not to waste time by being clear about these matters. It makes no sense to send a candidate seeking top market salary to a client who wishes to stay at the lower end.

Throughout the interview the candidate was flat, showing little if no emotion and not an inkling of passion for working with children. The parents tried to bring her out by asking open-ended questions that should have elicited more detailed and open responses. When asked  " As a career nanny what is it that makes you stay in this field?"  Her affect flat and her eyes downcast she replied, " I'm not sure." After that this dual-career couple could not wait to get her out of their house.

In following up with the candidate we let her know that the employer did not feel that the interview went well. She was not surprised. Getting her to open up and process things in greater detail was not easy. Knowing that her references were so positive we decided that we would try to give her some tips for her next interview. Perhaps she listened. Perhaps she took some of our coaching to heart, We also understood that for whatever reason she did not feel comfortable with the parents and offered that she felt herself shutting down. 

Postscript:  The family interviewed a few more candidates with more positive experiences. They ended up hiring the third candidate they met. She has less experience and formal education than the first the couple had interviewed. Her resume was not one that would leap out at any one. What she had was a heart of gold, a passion for working with children and parents, and an open, sunny and positive affect that lit up the room. She asked many, many questions; questions that demonstrated her interest in the job, the children and understanding of the parent's job description. It was clear that she wanted to make sure that they would also be on the same page and that this would be the kind of "fit" built to last. She could not take her eyes off of the baby and be the end of the interview was holding her on her lap. Her smile was broad and her laughter genuine.  She was offered the job the next morning and she accepted. 

Friday, January 11, 2013

Most Discussed Email Of Our Week

Dear ANC,

I have spoken with all of my past nanny employers and none of them are comfortable giving their numbers to your agency. The _______'s do not live here anymore as the mom took a job outside of the Boston area. The ________'s are ultra private people and do not want any  people contacting them; even your agency. They are very busy and the mom has too many issues to take the time out of her day to talk with you.
The _______'s being such a prominent Boston Family do not want to give out telephone #'s or any information about their children to anyone. Therefore, I am unable to give out #'s or email addresses as ALL of my employers desire their privacy. I will forward you a new resume with all family names deleted per all families request.

Looking forward to working with you!



 This was a most unusual letter and we realized that this candidate did not understand the role of the nanny agency despite our one hour meeting. So much to chew on, here.  Our reference checking is one of the most important steps we take in  the intricate process of the vetting and understanding  of who our applicants are and how to successfully place them. Any employer who has had the good fortune to have hired a nanny owes that professional a thoughtful, detailed and thorough reference. Our advise to any nanny is to make sure that they have a written letter from any employer before conclusion of their job. They should also make sure that their employer is willing to talk with prospective employers and the agency they are working with.

Friday, October 19, 2012

So Many Great Job Possibilities. Current Listings

Spring has sprung and we are so excited about the array of incredible job options we have for experienced, passionate, dedicated and developmentally savvy nannies. We hope to engage your interest in apply to our agency by reviewing some of our current jobs.

Please find below our current nanny positions. Review them carefully and let us know which ones you are interested in. Consider your experience in the listed age area as well as the numbers of hours that the family is looking to hire for.

If interested you can send your resume to
and indicate the jobs you are most interested in learning more about.

If you want to expedite the process please visit our website and indicate the jobs you are interested in on the comment section at end of application


ASAP!! NEW!! Job#136- G7mos. Brookline, MA.
Hours: M-T-W 7:30-5:30 Salary: Negotiable Car: Not needed- very T accessible
Parent at Home: No Pets: No
***Lovely first time parents seeking loving, nurturing, and safety oriented nanny interested in child development. Must be fluent in English. All childcare as well as light household help. Seeking infant experience and outstanding professional resume and references. Hope for long term commitment.

ASAP! NEW!!! Job #134- B4 G1. Boston, MA
Hours: M-F 7:30-6  Salary: $850-1100 Health and Bonus
Car: Volvo SUV provided- MUST be a good driver!
Parent at Home: No Pets: No
***Family needing a new nanny NOW! Childcare and their laundry, driving, going to activities, lunch and dinner prep and lots of creative play. Nanny qualities sought: honest, dependable, caring and energetic. Must have healthy eating habits and be willing to make a long term commitment.

NEW!!! Job#131- G7 weeks. Cambridge, MA.
Hours: T-TH-Sat 9-5 Salary: $15-18 Parent at Home: Yes Pets:No
***New parents seeking PT help with newborn. Mom is currently on maternity leave and will be breastfeeding throughout the day. Must be very knowledgeable in infant development, affectionate, caring and trustworthy. Light housework. Could lead to more hours.

 Job#130- B2 B3 G5 G7 B10. South Walpole, MA.
Hours: M-F 10-7 w/some flexibility around earlier start times. Salary: $20/hr ~ 46,800/yr w/health help and gas stipend. Parent at Home: Yes Pets: No
***Busy household looking for help for stay at home mom. Must be calm, organized, proactive and a great communicator. Nanny is mostly responsible for younger two but may occasionally overlap with mom and older children. Must have a great rapport with mom and genuinely love kids. Would love flexibility of occasional overnights to be compensated with additional vacation days.***
NEW!!! Job #084- B8 B4- Belmont, MA
Hours: M-Th-F 12-6 TW 4-6  Salary: $17-20
Car: SUV provided- very accessible to public transportation
Parent at Home: No  Pets: No
***Great PT opportunity in a wonderful area. Must be caring, active, honest and sensitive. Handle school pickups, drop-offs, driving to activities and dinner prep. Family is warm, communicative and wonderful.

Job #126- B4 B2 G5mos. Boston, MA.
Hours: Very Flexible MTTH 8-6 WF 8-3 Salary: $18-21 w/bonus
Car: Not needed. Very T accessible Parent at Home: Yes- mom works 25 hours a  week  Pets:  No
***Wonderful young family looking for a genuine relationship with their nanny. Great location with lots to do! Nanny must have experience with infants and help with sleep training. The family is looking for someone who loves engaging with children and is mature and optimistic. A partner in Montessori approach parenting and a sugar free home. Mom works 25 hours a week and wants one on one time with kids.***

Job #013- B 3 Twins 12/12. Cambridge, MA
Hours: M-F 8-6:30 with flexibility- some later starts  Salary: $18-20
Car: Not needed but MUST drive  Parent at Home: No  Pets: No
***Care of children- meals, laundry, pick ups and drop offs as well as handling the scheduling playdates and activities. 8am starts with possible 11 am starts. Nanny must have lots of infant and toddler experience, have high energy and great developmental knowledge. Good work ethic and communication skills key. Must be proactive and capable of keeping things organized and schedules running.

ASAP!!! Job #100- G12. Dedham, MA
Hours: M-T-Th 12-7 W 3-7 F 3-6  Salary: Competitive, insurance and bonus
Car: Needed  Parent at Home: No  Pets: No
***Super awesome family needing someone yesterday! They have a great, cheerful daughter who needs support in staying on task with homework and getting organized. Light housekeeping, meal prep, transporting from school and activities- occasional overnights and 3 morning drop-offs.***

Job #030- G7 G4. Cambridge, MA
Hours: M-F 1-6  Salary: $20 an hour
Car: Needed  Parent at Home: Father in home office  Pets: No
***Returning family looking for afternoon help. Must be organized! Help with the children related tasks and pickups as well as meal prep/ Nanny should have strong background in early childhood education and be tuned in to developmental needs and challenges. A warm and wise type needed.

Job #114- B16 G14. Dedham, MA
Hours: M-Th 3-6:30  Salary: TBD
Car: Minivan provided  Parent at Home: No  Pets: No
***Great family looking for driving and house management for busy teenagers. Pick ups from schools in Weston and Brookline, family laundry and food shopping as well as providing dinners every evening.***

NEW!!! Job #063- B5 G2. Bedford, MA
Hours: MTThF 3-7 W 2-7 Salary: $18-20
***Fabulous dual career couple seeks experienced nanny who can provide structure but also give children some free choice. Nanny should be engaging, loving, energetic, creative and a good communicator. Hoping for a long-term relationship with a great match.***

ASAP!!! Job #099- G9 B6. Still River, MA
Hours: M-F Appx 30 hours Salary: $18 Car: Needed
Parent at home: Yes- mom has home office in basement  
Car: Needed Pets: Golden Retriever.
***Engaged and active family is seeking intelligent, creative and proactive nanny to really become part of their team. Childcare, driving to activities, meal prep and house management.***

ASAP!!! Job #097- B12 B10. Newton, MA
Hours: M-F 2-7 during the school year with the ability to work full days for vacations/holidays off from school. Possibly 45 hours in the summer when children not in camp.  Salary: $27,000 year
Car: Needed (clean driving record required) Parent at Home: Yes- home office Pets: No
***Great returning family needing help ASAP! Parents looking for a great team player who is physically very active with high energy and is intelligent! Experience with boys this age a must!***

Updated!!! Job #035- B8 B6. Lexington, MA
Hours: M/W 7:15-715 T/TH 7:30-4 F 7:30-11:30
Salary: $18-20+  Bonus, health, tuition reimbursement
Car: Yes for errands  Parent at Home: No  Pets: No
*** Sweet returning family looking for safety conscious nanny who will provide childcare, help with house maintenance, and house errands. Must have excellent judgment, flexibility, patience and loving personality.***

LI/LO Job #016-  B1 G 6/2012. Cambridge, MA
Hours: M-TH 9-6 F 9-4  Salary: TBD plus bonus, access to Harvard dorm for art studio, music practice rooms, exercise facilities, etc.
Car: Not needed  Parent at Home: Yes and No  Pets: Dog
***Family wanting a calm and relaxed nanny who can be interactive with children and a proactive person who gets the children out of house. Flexibility is key as well as being a fluent Hebrew speaker! Kosher family.***


NEW!!! TEMP! Job #138- G5. Brookline, MA.
Hours: M-F 7-9am & 1:30-6/6:30pm on school days – nonschool days M-F 7-6pm Salary: $15-20 Car: Needed w/clean driving record Parent at home: No
***Temp position for lovely single mom while nanny is on maternity leave. Position will be mid November to mid/late January. School pick ups/drop offs, transporting to activities and playdates. Also household management and meal prep. Must be energetic, organized and health conscious.***

NEW!!! TEMP! Job #133- B4 B2.4. Wellesley, MA
Hours: M-F 7:45-4:45 Salary: $15-20
Car: Not needed  Parent at Home: Yes  Pets: No
***Temporary position for family- their nanny will be on maternity leave. Mom stays at home, helps with children but not a micromanager.  Some concern with children’s eating. Childcare, grocery shopping and cooking dinner. Start in November and go through December or January.***

NEW!!! LI Job #132- G2 Twins due 12/12. Natick, MA.
Hours: M-F 7/8-5/6 Flexible Salary: $600-750/wk w/bonus
Car: Yes- Honda Minivan provided Parent at Home: Maternity Leave Pets: No
***The nicest family looking for a nanny to join their family. Comprehensive childcare and household management. Accommodations for nanny include private bedroom and shared bathroom.***

FLEXIBLE! Job #033- B2. Westwood, MA
Hours: M-F 7:10-6:10 Salary: $900 w/bonus
Car: Provided Parent at Home: No Pets: No
***Dual career couple seeking long term experienced nanny. Must be loving, consistent, high energy and playful. Responsible for taking child to classes and engaging in development activities as well as helping with meal prep.***


NEW!!! Job #135- G6 B4. Newton, MA
Hours: MTThF 7:30-4:30/5 Wed 1x a month in place of working Friday of that week.
Salary: $20 w/health
Car: Needed  Parent at Home: No  Pets: No
***Returning family looking for warm and loving nanny. Must have an impeccable driving record and excellent judgment. Good sense of humor and love of music and dancing! Treat nannies like family members. Start December or January.***

NEW!!! Job#129- G3. Newton, MA.
Hours: M-F 7:30-5:30 w/possibility of travel Salary: $15-20+ based on exp.
Car: Yes- very T accessible At home Parent: No Pets: No
***Wonderful family recently adopted child from China. Looking for long term placement to provide consistency, a nanny who is developmentally savvy to engage child in age appropriate activities and encourage development. Would appreciate light housework, errands and meal prep.***

NEW!!!  Job #128- G2mths. Brookline, MA
Hours: Appx M-Th 8-6:30 F 9-5 Flexible for hours Salary: $18-20 w/health and bonus
Car: Yes- safe and reliable Parent at Home: Maternity Pets: Dog- G. Retriever
***New parents looking for a nanny with common sense and good judgement. Can follow instruction yet still take initiative. Flexible on start date- PT to begin to get to know nanny and then FT in January. Looking for 3-5 years of infant experience. Foreign language a plus!***

NEW!!!  Job #127- G8. Wellesley, MA
Hours: MW 6:45-8:30/3-6:30 T 6:45-8:30/2-6:30  TH/F 6:45-10/3-6:30
Salary: $18
Car: Yes- prefer all wheel drive vehicle Parent at Home: No  Pets: maybe a dog
***Returning family seeking loving, reliable and patient nanny who can take initiative. Must have common sense! They would love someone long term to help out with the morning rush, cooking meals and errands. Afterschool care of child with help on holidays, snowdays and letting people into home.***


NEW!! Job #139- B1. Boston, MA.
Hours: M-F 8-6 w/flexibility Salary: $15-20 w/health help Car: No
Parent at Home: No Pets: No
***Family looking for nanny for B1. Could start nanny earlier than January. Total childcare as well as light household help. Prefer nanny background but would also consider a teacher. Must have excellent communication skills, reliable and loving.***

NEW!!! Job #121- B NB due 10/13. Cambridge, MA
Hours: Appx 30-40 hours a week between the hours of 7-7 Salary: $15-20
Car: No Parent at Home: No Pets: No
***Nurturing, proactive and reliable nanny sought for newborn. Childcare and light housework related to child.***

Job #082- GG5mos. Arlington, MA
Hours: M-F 8-6 Salary: $17-20 w/bonus
Car: Needed  Parent at Home: No Pets: No
***Loving dual career couple seeking nanny for infant twins. Must be experienced w/twins, mature, reliable and a good communicator. All childcare, take to activities, engage in developmental activities and light household management.***

March 2012 Placements

NEW!!! L/I or L/O Job #137- Girl due Jan 25th 2012. Concord, MA.
Hours: Live In Option M-F 40-50 hrs  Live Out Option 3 Full days Salary: $15-20 w/health and bonus Car: Not needed
Parent at Home: No Pets: Yes- black lab
***Nanny will have guest room on 1st floor with en suite bathroom and private balcony. Must be dependable, kind, fun, have experience with infants and optional be a German speaker! All infant care, light housework and cooking. Must love dogs!***